The issue with our attention ✍️
A few days ago, I came across an article by Chris Hayes in The New York Times. Chris writes about how our world, packed with constant distractions, has robbed us of the ability to be comfortable with our own thoughts. We’ve become so accustomed to filling every idle moment with entertainment or activity that boredom feels almost unbearable.
One particular point struck me: the reflexive habit of pulling out our phones whenever there’s a momentary pause while waiting. At first I wasn't aware of this but while standing in line at the Supermarket I took out my phone without even knowing. It made me reflect on my own behavior. How often do I reach for my phone without even thinking?
The irony isn’t lost on me: as Chris highlights, as parents, we limit screen time for our children, yet we’re glued to our phones at the slightest lull.
It’s no secret that smartphones have transformed the way we live. They’re our maps, our cameras, our connection to work and friends. But they’re also attention magnets, pulling us away from the present moment. How many conversations have been cut short by a glance at a screen? How many fleeting moments of creativity have been lost because we’re too busy scrolling?
Chris argues that our dependence on distractions prevents us from cultivating inner discipline and presence. Instead of using downtime to daydream or reflect, we’re quick to drown it out with noise. And this constant connectivity comes at a cost, not just to our focus, but to our relationships and even our sense of self.
Reading Chris’ article prompted me to take a hard look at my own habits. I opened up my screen time settings and wasn’t surprised to see how much time I was spending on my phone. But what did surprise me was how often I reached for it without any real purpose—in line at the supermarket, during commercials, even while waiting for water to boil. These moments add up.
Our ability to focus is like a muscle, and just like any muscle, it needs to be exercised. When we constantly rely on distractions, we weaken our capacity for deep thought, creativity, and connection. But by making intentional choices, we can begin to reclaim our attention.
So, I decided to make some changes. I’ve started setting boundaries on how and when I use my phone, especially in the surroundings of my children. I want to demonstrate good behavior and be present, listening and caring when I'm with them.
It’s not easy; the urge to check my phone is strong. But with each small step, I feel more present and more in control of my attention.
I encourage you to take a moment to observe your own habits.
How often do you reach for your phone without thinking? What small changes could you make to be more present? It’s not about eliminating technology completely but about using it in a way that serves us rather than controls us.
In a world full of distractions, choosing focus is a radical act.
Let’s start small and see where it takes us.
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